Friday, December 9, 2011

About the Duggars

I am so upset. This morning while standing in the kitchen washing my crock pot I was thinking about all the randomness that finds it's way into my head. Then I got stuck on one particular subject, the Duggars. Since the news broke about Michelle's miscarriage there have been a slew of comments made about this woman and her family....and it really makes me angry!!

All of us know what it is that makes these people so intriguing.....one family with 19 kids. It's amazing to write let alone wrap your brain around living in a house with that many others. People have remarked for several years that the choice Jim Bob and Michelle made to have as many kids as God would allow is both selfish and wrong. Surely, their kids are suffering. Have you ever met a Duggar child? Other than TLC, have you ever watched this family interact with one another? The Duggars live in a small town, literally, just down the road from me. It is not unusual to see them around town and I can assure you these people are true to form. The children are respectful, healthy, polite, intelligent, and pretty well rounded. Not one of them appears to be scarred from being raised in such a large family. I respect the fact that this woman runs a household, home schools, and is a spiritual leader to her children.

You know what else I respect about Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar? They don't live off the government. Which is much more than I can say about many families I have met and, quite frankly, some of my friends on Facebook, You berate this woman about her kids not getting one on one time, but the one, two, or three kids you have NEVER get your time. You never sacrifice for your children. Instead you let ME, the taxpayer, foot the bill. Your kids don't know the meaning of being respectful. Your kids don't know how to have faith in God or themselves. Talk about an injustice. And the sad thing is, you're okay with it. You sit on your judgmental little couch watching Jerry Springer smoking a $6 pack of cigarettes while little Johnny plays outside alone....as he has been for hours. What happened to that quality time with your kid? Oh yeah, you'll do that later, right? And you want to judge Michelle Duggar.

Bottom line- Jim Bob and Michelle did not ask my opinion or yours about how many kids they should have or how to raise or how fund them. Their choices have no affect on my life. As long as those children are taken care of and their needs are met, who am I (or you) to say they are doing something wrong? Do I think this is taking a toll on her body? Absolutely. But, again, it's not my decision. Leave the woman alone people. Maybe if you quit focusing on everything you believe she's doing wrong, you will learn something from what she is doing right.

And on a final note, have some sympathy. Michelle just lost a child. To the general public, this fetus was "number 20". To some, this fetus isn't a person. To Michelle, this was her baby. Let her grieve in peace.